Becoming Coco

I dreamt forever about having my own house. When I first got married nearly 9 years ago I assumed we'd save up for and buy a house in 5 years or so. That seemed like a good long time and I thought we'd get a really cute little house with character right in the middle of downtown La Mesa, in sunny San Diego county where we both grew up. The houses at the time were pricey, but within reach for a couple who saved for a few years and had two decent paying jobs, which we both were on the way to having. But as time went on we seemed to never have a time where we both had two decent paying jobs. One of us would get a good 30-40k a year job and then the other would be in a lower paying job, or be unemployed. One time I got my dream job and then my husband's company let him go and shut down. Then my dream job turned out to be a nightmare in disguise and my husband got passed over for a promotion for a job that was literally what he was already doing and assured that he was going to ...

Take time to think About What you really want  Your actions reveal your real values. A simple, but profound statement. Why haven't you quit smoking? Why haven't you started that business? Why haven't you learned that language? You say you want to, but then reasons. Those reasons are really excuses because deep down you DON'T want to do those things, not really. You want them sure, a little, but in reality other things are more important to you right now. Use this knowledge to re-evaluate what you think you want. Stop focusing on that thing you think you want, but don't really want as much as other things. You'll be happier accepting the simpler life of what you truly value. And if you don't like your values and want to become the person who does really want that thing, then use this knowledge to re-evaluate why you aren't prioritizing that thing and find a new motivation. Truth is we all have the time and resources to do whatever it is we reall...